Are you generally a happy person? Do people like to be around you? More importantly, do you like being around you?
I hope you have said yes to the questions above. But if not, I have some tips for you to become happier. First, if you would like to find out your level of happiness, go to this web site (www.authentichappiness.com), and take a little happiness test. The University of Pennsylvania and their department of Positive Psychology run this site.
Studies have shown that the happiest people don't spend a lot of time alone. They pursue personal growth and intimacy; they judge themselves by their own yardsticks, never against what others do or have. Life satisfaction occurs most often when people are engaged in absorbing activities that cause them to forget themselves, lose track of time and stop worrying. Exercise is a great way to get your "feel great" emotions going. When you exercise you get your endorphins going and this creates a natural high. Exercise also gets the blood flowing through the body and gets more oxygen to your brain; not only does this make you feel more alert, but it energizes you. Lastly, when people hold on to grudges they tend to be more upset with themselves than the people they are not forgiving. You need to release the resentment, anger, etc., and allow yourself to live again. I know deep down inside people don't want to be unhappy, so think of this statement. If this is what I don't want, then what is it that I do want. If you don't want to be unhappy, then you must want to be happy. Try some of the tips above to help change your mood. If they don't work, try thinking of something that does make you happy and feel the emotions inside of you change. If you want happiness you must feel happiness. Think about it, focus on it, and it will come to you.